Hey Hey Fam! Welcome back to the DPTaughtMe Trust the Process series! If this is your first time reading a blog from this installment, what it do fam?! If you’re wondering what this series is about, here it is. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I’m sharing a few life lessons I am grateful for. This season, my biggest lesson has been learning what “Trust the Process” means and what that entails. So far, this is what I’ve come up with (click the highlighted title to see the past blogs). Trusting the Process means:
- Acknowledging There’s Beauty in the Struggle
2. Knowing Persistent Preparation Precedes Progress
And now 3: Trusting the Process means: Don’t Rush Time
It is constantly brought to our attention, specifically among Millennials, that we live and function in an “Instant Gratification” world. We want everything right here and right now. If it doesn’t happen in the time frame we would like it to happen, either it isn’t for us or we force our way into a situation that we aren’t ready for. While we are transitioning into the new places and spaces in our life, we must learn how to “Trust the Process” by taking our time during our transition phase and learning how to utilize our time wisely.
In my last blog, I briefly talked about exercising this concept , especially when your life seems to be at a standstill. There was a specific line that really stood out to me that I would like to expound upon. While you are going through your process, it is imperative that you:
For some strange reason, this made me think of food. Maybe it’s the Zeta in me. Maybe it’s the Thanksgiving ambiance in the air. Either way, I like the theme so I’m going to run with it.
Think of it this way. You’re preparing for Thanksgiving Dinner. You know you have a certain amount of days until folks show up at your door. There are three ways you can get this dinner done. No matter what option you go with, people are gonna get fed. However, there are a few nuances that come with each choice:
Order it ahead of time:
Contracting others to do the heavy lifting is undoubtedly an effective way to get things done, especially when you are on a tight schedule and you have a never ending list of things to do. However, the downsides to this approach is:
- You don’t get to put your signature “stank” to it. If someone else is making your signature dish, then it’s not a true representative of you, your in depth knowledge and your vast capabilities.
- When you’re asked to replicate your “signature dish” later, you won’t be able to perform at the same caliber as before, because…well, you didn’t do the work.
During your process, know that having the correct experiences and hands on approach allows you to become familiar with your craft/talent that is distinctly yours. When someone else creates your narrative for you, it’s hard to live up to. Take inventory of what you need to do and all the tools you need in order to create your ideal opportunity. Do research on different successful models. Watch documentaries or read autobiographies on people who are where you want to be. Take note of their trials and errors. After that, formulate your own plan of action and tweak it to your liking. Find an execution outline that fits your personality, your habits and your goals. From there, when it’s time for you to show up and show out, you can do so with full confidence.
Zap it with microwave magic:
Now, let me just give this disclaimer: I have yet to see/hear of anyone cooking a Thanksgiving dinner in the microwave. HOWEEEEEVA, I don’t put it past anyone (s/o to the bachelors – bachelorettes – people who don’t care to know how to cook but you gotta sometimes. I see you). But to go with the theme, let’s say someone wanted to prepare their Turkey Day dishes via a la microwave. Although everyone will have something on their plate, the downside to this approach is:
- You lose the essential nutrients and subsistence needed to sustain, maintain and elevate your health levels.
- Because you’re working supernaturally quick, the flavors in your meal don’t have the time to properly develop and the dish falls flat. Yeah, you have something to eat, but if it’s not pleasing aesthetically or taste wise, the dish has a small chance of being desirable and/or memorable.
When it comes to high impact, influential goals and projects that you’re trying to achieve, every detail counts. Don’t be in such a hurry to get to the next level and neglect all the pertinent steps needed to get you to the final destination. Skipping crucial steps will hinder you in the end. You won’t have anything of substance to add to the table. Also, because you rushed things, certain elements of your plan won’t meld together and your end result will look sloppy, unintentional, and frankly, uninspiring. Or consider a time when you were studying for a test and you really wanted a good grade. You KNOW that studying gradually through the year and letting those notes marinate in your mind will allow you to recall information rather quickly on test day. But instead, you try to implement all these amazing study habits in a matter or 7 hours before the test and your results are probably not going to be so grand. You’ll get the job done, but it won’t be the results you desire. Embrace the time you have to perfect and plan out your goals/dreams. Try to understand the purpose of this “downtime”; optimize and develop your time by jotting down where you want to be, finding people/opportunities that will help you get there, sifting through events that will help turn your “standstill status” into a full blown opportunity incubator for your future.
There is a FANTASTIC analogy Kirk Franklin used about “Trusting the Process” in the video below. Guess what he compared the process to? CAKE! I’m just saying that because I need yall to know Zetas and Jill Scott aren’t the only ones who love to talk about food! Anyway, if you want to watch, I started the video where he began this analogy. But if you want to listen to the whole Bible study, bookmark the video and watch later. =)
Cook it yo’self:
Last but certainly not least, the only other option left is cooking from scratch for yourself. Yes, it is time consuming. Yes, if you can’t cook, you have a high likelihood of burning the house down. I hope yall aint that bad. There’s Youtube tutorials for that. But, I digress. Even though we take those possibilities into consideration, this is the best option. Let me tell you why.
- You know exactly what’s in your dish. You can add and subtract where you want
- You become a multitasking master
- You learn to become more appreciative
If anyone knows me, they know I love to cook. I swear when I’m in the kitchen, I’m a contestant on Chopped or something. Cooking to me is a joy. And while I’m going through my transition, the process of cooking reminded me a lot about how my life was coming together. During your process, the “cooking approach” teaches you how to multi-task. Now is the time to dibble and dabble in different things. Find out what works for you and what doesn’t. Experiment with small personal projects. Identify which plans of actions bared great fruit and which ones have room for improvement.
The “cooking approach” also allows you to appreciate the process you’re in. There’s a certain satisfaction you get when you can see, smell, hear, and feel the fruits of your labor. You become sensitive to how you like things. You become aware to how people react to your signature voice/vision and improve it accordingly. You adjusts certain variables of your original plan to fit with your desired end result. You have complete control of your destiny when you’re hands on and you take your time.
Point of this blog is learn how to savor and appreciate your experiences. Use them to your advantage. The whole “when life gives you lemon…” type thing.
I hope that you gained something from this series and even more so, I hope you enjoyed it. If you did, let me know! I’d love to hear your feedback. With that being said, I wish you the best in the upcoming year. May all your grand aspirations come into fruition. I’ll holla at you later.