So, if you’re just now joining us for the Trust the Process series, welcome! In the spirit of the Thanksgiving season, I have been sharing life lessons I am grateful for. These particular lessons center around “Trusting the Process” and all that entails. In my first lesson, we discussed finding beauty in your struggle. Today, I’m going to dig into the next lesson:
Trusting the process means knowing that persistent preparation precedes progress.
Yes, that was a lot of alliteration, but work with me. It’s necessary, I promise. Okay…no more P words. Let’s get into it, shall we?
Remember when you were going through the process and you were steady trying to count down the day until your probate? Even though you never had the actual date, you just KNEW probate was around the corner. Sometimes that intense anticipation would negatively influence your patience, your concentration and your ability to capture the essence of the lessons you were supposed to be learning. When all these things took place concurrently, it would delay the process. Your stank attitude would get you in trouble. You struggled remembering your history. You became impatient and irritated with others who are going through the process with you. When these elements add up, the whole thing became overwhelming and made you want to get it over with already! Well as of late, there’s where I’ve been.
A while back I wrote a blog called “Tempted to Drop” which broke down the steps we all go through when we want to give up and what to do to combat those feelings. Recently, I had to revisit my own blog to encourage myself. As stated in last blog, I’m going through a career transition and it’s been a blast and a beast. I am surrounding myself people in the industry, doing my research, volunteering, shadowing and utilizing my transferable skills to make myself at home in this new space. At the same time, I am trying to establish and scale out personal projects within the next 1-3 years and they too have been a challenge. Because I don’t have the traditional experience, and lack certain certifications or qualifications, it’s hard for me to just JUMP in. I have all these ideas, all the strategies, all the plans I want to implement, but I gotta wait. Why? Because I’m not finished with my process.
My Dean (God) said,” You’re not ready to probate. Just….hol’on. I gotchu.”
God reminded me that I’m still in preparation mode. Of course, I’m not trying to hear that. Time is dragging. Opportunities are passing and I’m like “How am I not prepared? HOW SWAY?!” But then he brought these three gems to my attention. They not only put me on chill mode (no pun intended) but they also put things into perspective:
- Stop skating
Sometimes,we just have to admit that we are going through the motions. We’re making mistakes but not truly learning from them (especially if there is someone there to bump for us). We’re reciting information, but we’re not really digesting it. We’re enduring tests for the sake of saying we did it rather than meditating on the lessons life is trying to teach us. That’s what I was doing. I was so used to functioning in a stagnant state of insanity, that I couldn’t comprehend why I wasn’t progressing. Pride stifled my learning abilities. Stubbornness blocked my blessings. My lackadaisical work ethic diluted my character building.
I have a desire to get off line and to cross the burning sands. In order to do that, I have to become cognizant of my patterns that are detrimental to my growth. I began to understand what my present situations were saying about my past and how to approach my future. I listened to the advice my Dean (God) and my prophytes (my mama and my mentors) were giving me. I started IMPLEMENTING my lessons into my routines daily. I understand the purpose of each challenge given to me. Taking these actions have helped the process go by faster, smoother and allows me to make confident, incremental and meaningful moves.
- Know Your Information. Use Your Information.
There are instances when our anticipation to get to the end overshadows the fact that even though we are willing and ready to finish the process, we don’t have all of our information. I mean, seriously, we can’t stroll on the yard, in all of our letters, half knowing what those letters stand for. It’s disrespectful to yourself and your founders. The same principal stands for the gifts, missions and visions God makes us stewards over.
There will be moments where we have to work with the info we have. Do some extra research. Network in different communities. Ask questions even if they sound stupid. Partake in recreational or formal learning to increase your knowledge bank. Be insistent on taking the initiative. Invest in yourself during your prep time. Prepare you mind while you grind. Once you start digging, you’ll be expose to people, places and resources that will give you the answers to questions you didn’t even think about. This is where the Dean comes into play. God will start to reveal things and people to you. He will give you insight that others are unaware of. He will divulge information and tactics that will elevate you well beyond the your own ability. With your effort and God’s knowledge, you will have everything you need to excel.
- Dean is getting things ready for your probate
When we’re in the thick of the process, we think we’re the only ones going through the hard stuff. But our Dean and ADP are going through it too, but in a different way. They have to make sure all of your paperwork and money is turned in on time. They have to align your initiation ceremony with your process timeline perfectly. They have to keep their ear to the street for people trying to leak your names while you’re on line. They have to make sure you know all the pertinent information needed to make you a legit member of your organization. They are to blame in anything happens to you. They are responsible for making sure everything is ready for you to properly cross into Greekdom. You are a reflection of not only them, but the chapter and the organization as a whole. They have to make sure everything is on-point…or else! (duh duh duun)
Likewise, life works the same way. We can’t afford to translate God’s “not now” into a “no”. Just because we’re at a stand still in our lives doesn’t mean we can’t move later. God is prepping for our probate. God has his own process he adheres to and must move things into place in order for his plans and his purpose to flourish in our lives. He doesn’t do anything half way. So while he has expectations for us, he also knows that we expect excellence from him. Therefore, he prepares accordingly. He’s shutting up haters and giving us favor in unfavorable places. He’s creating opportunities for us where there were none before. He’s moving people out the way and moving others in place so we can function at our optimal level. Trusting the process also means consistently activating our faith and KNOWING that God is working things out.
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
When we come into ourselves and our new missions, we want to come in as live and equipped as possible. When we’re not properly prepared, we not only make ourselves look bad, but we make everything we represent look… well like…THIS. That’s no shade, but it’s the first thing I thought of. The Bible teaches us how essential the power of preparation is:
For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?
I hope this installment was helpful for someone. It’s been hella useful for me as I start to move into other spaces. The next installment of “Trust the Process” will cover trusting AND functioning in God’s timing. If any of these points resonated with you, or you have a story to tell, please feel free to reach out to us via Facebook, Twitter or IG! I would love to hear from you. =)
Be blessed Fam!